For years, we have all been exposed to media and what is deemed as “perfect”. Both men and women are faced with various expectations on what makes them attractive, what makes them competent, etc.
About a year ago, I actually stopped using social media filters altogether. Prior to that, I used to always use filters because I wanted my face to look perfect. I loved the way the filters shaped my face, how they made my nose smaller, my eyes larger, flawless skin, you name it. I couldn’t stand looking at pictures of myself without a filter because I would literally point out all of my flaws. I realized that this wasn’t great at all for my mental health. I literally placed an expectation on myself that wasn’t realistic at all.
It’s beautiful to have flaws and to be different. That’s what makes you who you are. We all have our insecurities to some degree too sure. For example, I have crooked teeth, and I remember how much I used to hate them. On occasion, I’m still not really pleased with them, but in all reality, they actually make me who I am. I am not perfect, and that’s an incredible thing. It doesn’t make me any less attractive because of a simple flaw. I don’t have the biggest lips, I don’t possess the most perfect body, I do not look like all of these flawless Instagram models. And that’s okay, because I don’t want to look like anyone else. I want to be unique, and stand out as myself. No one can be me, I am an original, so why would I want to be or look like anyone else?
Start looking at your “flaws” as marks of beauty. They make you who you are, and that’s so special. Furthermore, confidence in general is what makes a person attractive. That energy and vibe you possess will draw people to you. Ladies, show off your body. Embrace what that body has done and continues to do for you. Wear the bikini, post a pic on social media if you want, flaunt it. You are beautiful and confidence is sexy. Our bodies allow us to do so much, so why not celebrate them?
Take a moment to look in the mirror and rather than pick yourself apart, tell yourself that you are absolutely beautiful. You are the epitome of beauty. All of the “flaws” just add to who you are.
Not where you want to be with your physique goals? In general, no one really is satisfied with that, bodybuilders being the worst of them all. Don’t hate yourself though, rather love yourself. When we love ourselves, we will make the change, and the fire will keep burning; not because we hate ourselves. Hate won’t keep the fire burning very long. Rather, we will continue to fall back into the same vicious cycle.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU ARE UNIQUE. YOU ARE ORIGINAL.